Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

1 – Be Proactive

You choose your life
Take responsibility in your life
Circle of Influence and Circle of Concern
proactive vs. reactive
Own it, then you can change it. No excuses allowed!
Between the stimulus and the response is your greatest power–you have the freedom to choose your response
Viktor Frankl

2 – Begin with the End in Mind

all things are created twice. There is a mental (first) creation, and a physical (second) creation
Envision what you want
Fast progress doesn’t help if it’s in the wrong direction
Understand how people make decisions
act based on principles
Are you who you want to be?
How do you want to be remembered?
develop a Personal Mission Statement

3 – Put First Things First

Prioritize and triage

1) Important and Urgent
2) Important and not-urgent
3) Not Important and Urgent
4) Not important and Not urgent

Pareto Principle 80 / 20 rule

The next three habits talk about Interdependence and working with others

4 – Think Win-Win

Zero sum gain
Abundance Mentality/Mindset vs. Scarcity
Desired Result: What is to be done and by when
Guidelines: What can and can’t be done
Resources: Who and what can help
Accountability: How will we measure success and how often

5 – Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

We usually respond to someone in 4 autobiographical responses:
1. Evaluate: agree or disagree with what is said
2. Probe: ask questions from our own frame of reference
3. Advise: give counsel based on our own experience
4. Interpret: try to figure out the person’s motives and behavior based on our own
Use empathetic listening
build rapport
Gain understanding of their circumstances

The Habit 5 is greatly embraced in the Greek philosophy represented by 3 words:
1) Ethos – your personal credibility. It’s the trust that you inspire, your Emotional Bank Account.
2) Pathos is the empathic side — it’s the alignment with the emotional trust of another person communication.
3) Logos is the logic — the reasoning part of the presentation.

paradigm, paradigm shift

6 – Synergize

The whole is greater than the sum of its parts

7 – Sharpen the Saw – Continuous Improvements

“Upward Spiral”
self care
four intelligences – physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual

Physical: Beneficial eating, exercising, and resting
Social/Emotional: Making social and meaningful connections with others
Mental: Learning, reading, writing, and teaching
Spiritual: Spending time in nature, expanding spiritual self through meditation, music, art, prayer, or service

The 8th Habit


8 – Find your voice and inspire others to find theirs.
Which inspired me to think about:
Send the elevator back down
We need more mentoring for people of all ages, esp. young and at risk
Pay it forward