At the grocery store I was accosted by the smarmy box wine lady and I lost my cool. Maintaining your internal locus of control can be a challenge at times. When you have a bad day, your defenses are battered, and a missile can sneak through. Try to resist. But if you lose your cool, try to do it with humor and intelligence. The last thing you want to do is degenerate to throwing expletives or escalate the situation. Be the better person. Also try to maintain a good emotional state. If you can pull off a good emotional state, it will help to maintain the internal locus of control, and vice versa. Don’t let the bad guy win by handing over your power and allowing them access to your locus of control.
If you lose it, take responsibility. Own it, and move on. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Stuff happens.
I discussed internal locus of control and emotional state in The Super Smart Guy Podcast episode 19.